Adam Murauskas

Cover of Mark Nepo's book, The Book of Awakening

Do You Dim Your Light in Relationships? 🥀

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “For a long time, I thought that keeping who I am to myself was the same thing as being myself quietly. I discovered it is not.” –Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening I remember walking on my hands through the mall when I was a kid and my brother saying, “Why you gotta be so weird all the time, dude? Just act normal.” I’ve always been pretty good at letting my freak flag flap in the breeze. Even at 41, I still skip in public, make myself...

about 23 hours ago • 1 min read

How to Solve Your Greatest Problems 🤯

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “The greatest and most important problems of life are fundamentally unsolvable. They can never be solved but only outgrown.” –Carl Jung Like him or not, Carl was a goddamn spiritual gangster. You know how they say talent hits a target no one else can hit and genius hits a target no one else can see? Yeah, that was dude. Lotta folks out here trynna solve their relationship problem, money problem, alcohol problem, time management...

8 days ago • 1 min read

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Love Is NOT All You Need 😲

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “Here’s a four line history of many relationships: I can’t believe how many things we have in common. Actually, in some ways, we’re very different. We are really SO different…. We were just too different.” –Mira Kirshenbaum, Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay Here’s a little fact about me: I LOVE THE CRAP OUTTA PEOPLE. Specifically, I really enjoy adoring folks – helping them feel seen, validated, appreciated, encouraged, good...

15 days ago • 1 min read

Cover of Mark Manson's book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

The Obvious Difference Between Good and Bad Relationships 😳

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “Good relationships get better with work. Bad relationships need constant work just to stay the same. The trick is knowing which kind of relationship you’re working on.” –Mark Manson New love is usually exciting, magical, and delicious... but ideally, your relationship doesn’t start at an all-time-high (and gradually roll downhill). It's unfortunate how relevant we make those early days. Swiping through virtually infinite profiles on...

22 days ago • 1 min read

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The Price of Emotional Repression 🙈

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “The price of emotional repression is a constant, wasteful expenditure of energy that leaves many of us depressed and taciturn.” –Pete Walker, The Tao of Fully Feeling Gabor Maté wrote a whole book (When the Body Says No) detailing how emotional and psychological stress contribute to actual disease and physiological deterioration. Unfortunately, most folks file that kinda stuff away as “won’t happen to me” or “that’s a problem for...

29 days ago • 1 min read

So You Think You're Self Aware? 🙄

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “He hath ever but slenderly known himself.” –William Shakespeare, King Lear Your connection with others will never be deeper, healthier, more authentic, satisfying, or intimate than your connection with yourself. Sounds cliché, but it’s true. Problem is, there are millions of sleep-walkin ass people at all different levels of dissociation, disconnection, unawareness, numbness, denial, and delusion. So you technically don’t have to...

about 1 month ago • 1 min read

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You Can't THINK Your Way Out! 🧐

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “Trauma teaches us to fear our feelings instead of feel our feelings because feeling them would be far more dangerous.” –Gabor Maté, When The Body Says No All your feelings, wounds, triggers, and trauma live in your body. Where else are they gonna live, New Jersey? So if you want direct access to your pain, grief, coping mechanisms, and such, sit still and pay attention to your meat slab for a couple minutes. What is your neck pain...

about 1 month ago • 1 min read

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Are You Growing In Your Relationships? 🌱

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “Spiritual partners bond with an understanding that they are together because it is appropriate for their souls to grow together. They recognize that their growth may take them to the end of their days… or it may take them to six months.” –Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul I believe there are three possible relational dynamics: The relationship will not work unless you be exactly yourself The relationship will not work unless you grow...

about 2 months ago • 1 min read

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Playing It Safe Is Dangerous 🫣

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “Playing it safe is dangerous.” –Winifred M. Reilly, It Takes One to Tango The unspoken rules of a dysfunctional childhood are: •Don’t feel•Don’t trust•Don’t talk about it•Don’t rock the boat Which can easily turn into a happily-ever-after-shaped cry for help like background radiation from a star collapsed long ago. And whether too few are attuned to that low frequency band of quiet desperation or no one’s comfortable bringing it up…...

about 2 months ago • 1 min read

The Secret to a Happy Relationship 🤫

Notes From a Relationship Coach(Big ideas in a small email) “The secret to a happy relationship is two happy people.” –Naval Ravikant If you don’t have peace, joy, contentment, and love in your heart while single, how will you bring those into a relationship? You cannot transmit something you do not have. And if you’re waiting for somebody to “make you feel that way,” that could be… A lonngggg-ass wait A disempowering path to chronic disappointment Now, to be clear, I’m not saying there’s...

2 months ago • 1 min read