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What Are YOUR Relationship-Crushing Emotional Coping Mechanisms? 🌪

Published 2 days ago • 1 min read

Notes From a Relationship Coach
​(Big ideas in a small email)

“Traumatic emotional neglect occurs when a child does not have a single caretaker to whom she can turn in times of need or danger.”

–Pete Walker, Complex PTSD​

I ask my clients, “As a kid, who did you talk to when you were upset?” A majority of them report crying it out alone, self-soothing, being punished for having feelings, or some version of having no one.

Trauma isn’t simply a painful experience – it’s the overwhelming sense of powerlessness and despair that comes from feeling utterly alone in your painful experience. And the nervous system never forgets that.

Having all your physical needs met in childhood can make it extra difficult to spot the emotional needs you learned to do without. Plus, it’s kind of impossible to see things you didn’t know you missed out on.

​Running On Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, by Jonice Webb covers this topic masterfully.

If you experienced some form of emotional neglect, abuse, enmeshment, or abandonment during your formative years, do you know how that is presently affecting your relationships?

Are the ways you learned to cope with unmet emotional needs still in heavy rotation?

Unsure?

Download Jonice’s Childhood Emotional Neglect quiz ––> HERE.

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