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Adam Murauskas

The Gnarliest Definition of Codependency... 🤢

Published 3 months ago • 1 min read

Notes From a Relationship Coach
​(Big ideas in a small email)

“Codependency makes you into an unhealed wound looking for someone to land on.”

–Elizabeth Gilbert, All The Way To The River​

Yikes on bikes! That line is so brutal but also, unfortunately, so very accurate.

Approximately 17 people recommended I read this book as soon as it came out. Then someone literally bought it for me. I feel seen… and slightly accosted.

I’ve always loved Lizzie G, but she came out on an Oprah thing waving her 12-step flag pretty hard, and frankly, it gave me the ick. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been in those rooms (of recovery) since I was 3 years old and I’m better for it. But I’m acutely aware of the triggers, limitations, and biases therein.

Nonetheless, this book has been amazing so far.

The grizzliest memoir of codependency I’ve ever encountered is I'm Glad My Mom Died – remarkably entertaining, although I recall wishing there was more healing and recovery talk in there (still five stars in my book).

There are innumerable patterns, behaviors, and varieties of codependency (making it difficult for folks to identify), but at the core, it’s generally a me-problem that compulsively seeks you-solutions.

A chronic itch that desperately needs other people to scratch it. Forever.

Change begins with awareness, my friends.

•Codependency Is Exhausting
​•Codependency and Boundaries
​•Codependent No More​

Tell me something more codependent than recommending books about codependency, haha. I’ll wait…

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