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Adam Murauskas

The ONE THING That'll Ruin Every Relationship 🪦

Published 2 months ago • 1 min read

Notes From a Relationship Coach
​(Big ideas in a small email)

“Relationships are emotional bonds. They’re about the innate need for safe emotional connection.”

–Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight​

Let’s say you’re in a relationship that checks all the boxes – friendship, attraction, sex, adventure, compatibility, finances, values, etc. Maybe you’ve built a big, beautiful, abundant life together and you shoouulld be happy and grateful and have nothing to complain about.

HOWEVER… if you don’t have safe emotional connection, I’m willing to bet all that other sh!t won’t even matter.

That’s like starving to death in a Lamborghini.

Sure, romantic partnership can be a good logistical strategy for combining incomes, buying a house, procreating, or any number of “tasks.” But, far as I’m concerned, the whole ass reason I shake the dice on love is to feel SAFE, SEEN, SOOTHED, and SECURE on an emotional level.

I’d rather be dead broke with emotional safety than rich without it; rather die alone than live in an emotional war zone.

I feel like a broken record over here, but if I could only recommend ONE BOOK to anyone for the rest of my natural born life on earth, it would be Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. I see time and time again how people perpetually communicate with each other in a way that is fundamentally not safe.

If you want a healthy relationship, THAT HAS TO CHANGE.

Not sure what else to tell ya.

•You-Statements vs. I-Statements
​•Asking for Love in Unlovable Ways
​•Why Criticism Destroys Relationships
​•Needs, Boundaries, Requests, and Demands​

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