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Adam Murauskas

So You Think You're Self Aware? 🙄

Published about 1 month ago • 1 min read

Notes From a Relationship Coach
​(Big ideas in a small email)

“He hath ever but slenderly known himself.”

–William Shakespeare, King Lear

Your connection with others will never be deeper, healthier, more authentic, satisfying, or intimate than your connection with yourself. Sounds cliché, but it’s true.

Problem is, there are millions of sleep-walkin ass people at all different levels of dissociation, disconnection, unawareness, numbness, denial, and delusion. So you technically don’t have to grow in awareness or wellness to get into a relationship. Just find someone who’s about as checked out as you are and walk em down the aisle so you can be alone together.

Here’s the catch-22…

If you don’t heal, you’ll have an unlimited number of emotionally unavailable partners to choose from. Lots of exciting selection – enough to keep you busy for a lifetime of failed relationships.

But if you DO become a healthy, whole, secure, functional, mature human being, the dating pool becomes increasingly sparse.

Lotta folks don’t realize that “fixing your picker” necessarily means that you will no longer be attracted to unhealthy people. And eventually you realize, Dang, there’s a LOT of unhealthy people out here.

Wish there was more I could do about that. I’m just here to help you become whole. The rest is up to you.

•The Journey of Self Awareness
​•Childhood Inventory
​•Requirements for Human Maturation
​•Fix Your Picker Workbook​

To thine own self be true,

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