Notes From a Relationship Coach
​(Big ideas in a small email)

“Here’s a four line history of many relationships: I can’t believe how many things we have in common. Actually, in some ways, we’re very different. We are really SO different…. We were just too different.”

–Mira Kirshenbaum, Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay​

Here’s a little fact about me: I LOVE THE CRAP OUTTA PEOPLE.

Specifically, I really enjoy adoring folks – helping them feel seen, validated, appreciated, encouraged, good enough, and loved exactly as they are. It’s kinda my favorite thing to do. And naturally, they tend to love me right back (makes sense). Isn’t it downright wonderful to love and be loved???

Yes… AND…

Gazing upon my checkered relationship history, I realize my superpower of loving someone unconditionally has time and time again bamboozled me into believing “Love is all you need.”

But that is cleeeaaarly not the case, y’all. 😒

I can adore damn near anyone as long as I don’t have to live with ‘em for the rest of my life. But after that cage door locks behind me, there’s a nontrivial list of things that are required for that love and adoration to be sustainable. Absent those needs, it’s only a matter of time until the well runs dry.

I imagine it may be similar for you.

•The Inherent Pitfalls of Dating
​•Waiting for Someone to Give You Something They Don’t Have
​•Fix Your Picker Workbook​

Do you know what you need in a romantic partnership? What level of compatibility, connection, awareness, and alignment? Don’t assume what works for someone else will work for you. Ya gotta get clear on what YOU need, my friend. But whatever you do, pleeeaaase don’t assume love is all you need.

It ain’t.

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