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Playing It Safe Is Dangerous 🫣

Published about 2 months ago • 1 min read

Notes From a Relationship Coach
​(Big ideas in a small email)

“Playing it safe is dangerous.”

–Winifred M. Reilly, It Takes One to Tango​

The unspoken rules of a dysfunctional childhood are:

•Don’t feel
•Don’t trust
•Don’t talk about it
•Don’t rock the boat

Which can easily turn into a happily-ever-after-shaped cry for help like background radiation from a star collapsed long ago.

And whether too few are attuned to that low frequency band of quiet desperation or no one’s comfortable bringing it up… the silence forms rhyming couplets with loneliness, doubt, shame, and hopelessness.

The only options, far as I can tell, are:

  1. Medicate, numb, distract, escape, dissociate, suppress, avoid, pretend
  2. Talk about it with someone

•Hand Grenades Made of Silence​

Your hardest problems will not be solved quietly,

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